Just Be Yourself? Or Change to Become A Better Person?

Just be yourself! Those three words have been said way too much! My mom said it, my ex girlfriend said it (way too many times), my Mormon cousin has said it and this old lady on the street has said it. Here's the thing. When you are learning to be a player, you are not trying to be someone else. You are picking up a skill, like calculus, or chemistry, just a skill to put in your knowledge bank. When you are studying law and hoping to become a lawyer, do people tell you to "just be yourself" instead of becoming a lawyer? HELL NO! When you become a lawyer you are training to get access to something you desire, that's why you do it. You want to have money and plenty of it! When you are training to be a player, you are learning how access women more efficiently and effectively; you are not CHANGING YOURSELF!

Here's my belief: No one can really change who they are deep down deep deep down, the only thing you can change is the top layer, the layer that is most exposed to social influences and stresses. The layer that is malleable. If you choose to change your persona, so to speak, overall, you are not changing yourself! You are still whoever you are! This is very fundamental since many guys refuse to change at all because they don't want to hurt the people they love and that love them.

Here's another really important point. If you want to be something different, really really bad, that desire is part of you, part of who you are, and it is part of being yourself! If you want to change enough, that will become you! You desires make you who you are, not what you are right now.

Also, from a metaphysical standpoint, you can never really not "just be yourself" you are you and its pretty fuckin' easy to be someone. Tell them muthafuckas to take it or leave it. Seriously.

Oh, and you know what I love? When people tell you inspirationally, "you can be whatever you want to be..!", and then they say commandingly, "just be yourself!" Irony at its best.

Okay, women want you to be yourself because they don't want someone fake, or who fakes it. So, when you are changing yourself, or learning how the game works, don't get in a relationship, because eventually she will tell you "your not the man I fell in love with! Blah* blah blah." So, make sure you do your changing, then get in a relationship if you choose. So basically, fake it until you make it, then go on your merry way as your new self.

Now, women want a man who is attractive, because, hell, that's what they are attracted to. So how do you be yourself, and be attractive? You have to be both! (No easy task I might add) So change to a more attractive you, then go fuck the prom queen.


*Women tend to talk way too much.