Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Pursuit

Pursuit. It's what our dad's told us to do when we spotted a beautiful woman. This idea can be taken to the extreme, where a man chases a woman desperately (our dad's told us to do this too). Pursuit is an interesting subject because every player has to find his "sweet spot" level of pursuit. Too much and you are desperate and needy, too little and you are passive, boring and weak. The key is to find the right energy level. Some "naturals" don't need to pursue at all, shit just happens. An AFC usually would (have to) pursue a woman to get any mileage. The key for a playboy developing his skill is to persist. Persistence is the key, not chasing.

Here are a few examples:

Persistence is plowing through the bullshit and getting to the point.

Chasing is beating around the bush, trying to trick her.

Persistence is firmly telling her what you want.

Chasing is sending all the signs of submissive behavior while pursuing her.

Persistence is bluntly giving her the option of being in your company, and allowing her to leave at her choosing.

Chasing is constricting her, telegraphing that she MUST only be with you.

Persistence is approaching with no regrets.

Chasing is hesitating and then clinging on once you think you "have" her.

Persistence is asking her to by a drink for you.

Chasing is asking if you can by a drink for her. (CRINGE)

Persistence is when I asked a girl to come back to my dorm to see my Photoshop artworks. (result: F-close)

Chasing is when I asked a girl out after she refused to have sex with me. (result: nothing lol)


Quite a difference right?

On women who "like the chase".... Some women and some dating advice sites say women just like the chase, (you chasing them). Well, usually this results in a guy getting put in the friend zone and results in nothing. Don't let a girl get you in the "chase" zone, attract her first. The chase zone is the highway to friendzoneville.

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