Inviting Her to Have a Good Time THE RIGHT WAY

I found these text message snippets in the depths of cyberspace:

GOOD: Hitting the museum fine art on tues. buzz me if u get in an
artistic mood
GOOD: if u have a lot of energy after work, we’re salsaing and u’d
fit right in.
GOOD: u totally have to meet my friend maria. u two are like
sisters separated at birth
BAD: want to come to museum on tues?
BAD: we’re going salsa dancing tonight, want to come?

Can you tell the difference? Notice all the "good" statements are non-threatening; they are simply suggestive. They are just statements, meant to put a good idea out there. The "bad' are questions, however. These questions put her on the spotlight, and request that she make a hasty decision. Not fun.

I really like the first one. It subtly implies that shes not artistic and needs to get in an "artistic mood." It also disqualifies her and as a result, coming to the art museum would qualify her as artistic.