Using Kino (Touching) To Escalate Attraction

Kino is probably the most important method for escalation. In my opinion, kino should be actualized within 10 minutes of meeting a woman. It sends a signal of "this guy is serious, yet cheeky, and he's not afraid of me!" by 10 minutes of meeting her, she has almost figured out your "personality fingerprint" so to say... the impression that you leave. Cocky comedy and teasing only cover a few things, such as cheekyness and cockyness, but it's important to make sure she understands you are a real genuine dude with some kino.

Correct kino:
Just kidding, there's no correct way to do kino. Its mostly situational and spur of the moment, but there are a few guidelines you should follow:

-Initially, kino should be very brief. Just a tease. You don't wanna overstay your welcome. All you need to do is touch her long enough for her to wonder what you are doing, and retract at the moment she wants more of it. Later, as y'all get closer, of course, kino can become anything you desire.

-Heres a list of good kino actions, ordered from best done initially, to best done later in the relationship:
1. As you talk to her, touch her lightly on the elbow or arm to get her attention if you need it.
2. Ask for her hand, hold it cupped in you palms, and look at it and stroke the palm with a middle finger for just one second, then let it go and say "Your hand just looks really nice/soft" or something to that extent.
3. Guide her while your walking with your hand on her back, shoulder or upper torso area just for a second and then let go. Don't just do this randomly, do it when you need to "lead" her; when you guiding her to/through a door or stairwell.
4. Slap her ass. For no reason, or make up a reason. You can have a lot of fun with this one, and with the responses you get. But make sure she's sufficiently comfortable.
5. Hold her hand for a few seconds while you are walking, and drop it. Say, "It's too early for this." (I did this to one girl and her response was "You act like a child sometimes." somehow her neg failed to shake me: we ended up making out plenty that night.)
6. Warm up her hands if its cold outside. This will really get things hot. (pun intended)

Inviting Her to Have a Good Time THE RIGHT WAY

I found these text message snippets in the depths of cyberspace:

GOOD: Hitting the museum fine art on tues. buzz me if u get in an
artistic mood
GOOD: if u have a lot of energy after work, we’re salsaing and u’d
fit right in.
GOOD: u totally have to meet my friend maria. u two are like
sisters separated at birth
BAD: want to come to museum on tues?
BAD: we’re going salsa dancing tonight, want to come?

Can you tell the difference? Notice all the "good" statements are non-threatening; they are simply suggestive. They are just statements, meant to put a good idea out there. The "bad' are questions, however. These questions put her on the spotlight, and request that she make a hasty decision. Not fun.

I really like the first one. It subtly implies that shes not artistic and needs to get in an "artistic mood." It also disqualifies her and as a result, coming to the art museum would qualify her as artistic.

Pursuit

Pursuit. It's what our dad's told us to do when we spotted a beautiful woman. This idea can be taken to the extreme, where a man chases a woman desperately (our dad's told us to do this too). Pursuit is an interesting subject because every player has to find his "sweet spot" level of pursuit. Too much and you are desperate and needy, too little and you are passive, boring and weak. The key is to find the right energy level. Some "naturals" don't need to pursue at all, shit just happens. An AFC usually would (have to) pursue a woman to get any mileage. The key for a playboy developing his skill is to persist. Persistence is the key, not chasing.

Here are a few examples:

Persistence is plowing through the bullshit and getting to the point.

Chasing is beating around the bush, trying to trick her.

Persistence is firmly telling her what you want.

Chasing is sending all the signs of submissive behavior while pursuing her.

Persistence is bluntly giving her the option of being in your company, and allowing her to leave at her choosing.

Chasing is constricting her, telegraphing that she MUST only be with you.

Persistence is approaching with no regrets.

Chasing is hesitating and then clinging on once you think you "have" her.

Persistence is asking her to by a drink for you.

Chasing is asking if you can by a drink for her. (CRINGE)

Persistence is when I asked a girl to come back to my dorm to see my Photoshop artworks. (result: F-close)

Chasing is when I asked a girl out after she refused to have sex with me. (result: nothing lol)


Quite a difference right?

On women who "like the chase".... Some women and some dating advice sites say women just like the chase, (you chasing them). Well, usually this results in a guy getting put in the friend zone and results in nothing. Don't let a girl get you in the "chase" zone, attract her first. The chase zone is the highway to friendzoneville.