Using Kino (Touching) To Escalate Attraction

Kino is probably the most important method for escalation. In my opinion, kino should be actualized within 10 minutes of meeting a woman. It sends a signal of "this guy is serious, yet cheeky, and he's not afraid of me!" by 10 minutes of meeting her, she has almost figured out your "personality fingerprint" so to say... the impression that you leave. Cocky comedy and teasing only cover a few things, such as cheekyness and cockyness, but it's important to make sure she understands you are a real genuine dude with some kino.

Correct kino:
Just kidding, there's no correct way to do kino. Its mostly situational and spur of the moment, but there are a few guidelines you should follow:

-Initially, kino should be very brief. Just a tease. You don't wanna overstay your welcome. All you need to do is touch her long enough for her to wonder what you are doing, and retract at the moment she wants more of it. Later, as y'all get closer, of course, kino can become anything you desire.

-Heres a list of good kino actions, ordered from best done initially, to best done later in the relationship:
1. As you talk to her, touch her lightly on the elbow or arm to get her attention if you need it.
2. Ask for her hand, hold it cupped in you palms, and look at it and stroke the palm with a middle finger for just one second, then let it go and say "Your hand just looks really nice/soft" or something to that extent.
3. Guide her while your walking with your hand on her back, shoulder or upper torso area just for a second and then let go. Don't just do this randomly, do it when you need to "lead" her; when you guiding her to/through a door or stairwell.
4. Slap her ass. For no reason, or make up a reason. You can have a lot of fun with this one, and with the responses you get. But make sure she's sufficiently comfortable.
5. Hold her hand for a few seconds while you are walking, and drop it. Say, "It's too early for this." (I did this to one girl and her response was "You act like a child sometimes." somehow her neg failed to shake me: we ended up making out plenty that night.)
6. Warm up her hands if its cold outside. This will really get things hot. (pun intended)

Attract From Afar: Text Message Attraction

Continuing of my last post, here are some good text message game lines and ideas.

(opener) What are you doing, cutie?
(opener) SURPRISE!
(opener) Ciao bella! / Mi amore! / My cheri amore!
(opener) I just made you open your phone for no reason...looks like I got you in check =]
(opener) Hey goof, I bet my weekend can beat up your weekend.
(opener) What sort of trouble are you causing?
(opener) I know my math u+i equals 69
(opener) Girls are gross...
(opener) Hey princess, I Just came back from the aquarium and I saw the cutest fish there...it reminded me of you (this one is great!)
(opener) I hope you are smiling. If not just think of me!
(opener) Aliens are coming to abduct all the good looking sexy ass people! You will be safe, I'm just texting to say goodbye
(opener) I miss you and wanna see you, but this dumb security guard won't let me in the zoo. Is there any way you can escape?
(opener) Why'd you have to give your mom my phone number..? She won't quit calling me now..
(opener) Did you know a blue whales tongue weighs as much as an elephant!? That’s ridiculous… Gotta love animal planet during the lunch break…
(for flakes) I just met your twin
(for flakes) I like talking to you and I don't play games. I think we're really good together. Lets try it if not that's cool and I'm glad we met.
(push-pull) Out of all the (first name) (last name)'s I know... I think your my favorite.
(push-pull) You just popped into my head so Hi...now please stay out of there
(for same night) Sweet dreams, sexy. [name]
(for same night) Hey I hope you got home safe. [name]
(attraction) I don't know who you're boyfriend is...but he's not spanking you enough!
(attraction) I don't think you're ready for this jelly
(attraction) Awww, you're so sweet. You're making me get diabetes.
(attraction) I just don't think we should do this anymore...Sometimes you make me feel like I am just a piece of meat.
(comfort) I was thinking of you...
(comfort) Something about u seems to always make me smile.

"congratulations"
"for what?" "what did i do?" "why?"
"i was just thinking of u. congratulations"


Text messaging is a great way to practice game because its indirect and you have time to think about things. My only word of caution: use these carefully and sparingly. There are millions of "PUAs" out there that are using these day and night. Just don't overuse them.

Inviting Her to Have a Good Time THE RIGHT WAY

I found these text message snippets in the depths of cyberspace:

GOOD: Hitting the museum fine art on tues. buzz me if u get in an
artistic mood
GOOD: if u have a lot of energy after work, we’re salsaing and u’d
fit right in.
GOOD: u totally have to meet my friend maria. u two are like
sisters separated at birth
BAD: want to come to museum on tues?
BAD: we’re going salsa dancing tonight, want to come?

Can you tell the difference? Notice all the "good" statements are non-threatening; they are simply suggestive. They are just statements, meant to put a good idea out there. The "bad' are questions, however. These questions put her on the spotlight, and request that she make a hasty decision. Not fun.

I really like the first one. It subtly implies that shes not artistic and needs to get in an "artistic mood." It also disqualifies her and as a result, coming to the art museum would qualify her as artistic.

Pursuit

Pursuit. It's what our dad's told us to do when we spotted a beautiful woman. This idea can be taken to the extreme, where a man chases a woman desperately (our dad's told us to do this too). Pursuit is an interesting subject because every player has to find his "sweet spot" level of pursuit. Too much and you are desperate and needy, too little and you are passive, boring and weak. The key is to find the right energy level. Some "naturals" don't need to pursue at all, shit just happens. An AFC usually would (have to) pursue a woman to get any mileage. The key for a playboy developing his skill is to persist. Persistence is the key, not chasing.

Here are a few examples:

Persistence is plowing through the bullshit and getting to the point.

Chasing is beating around the bush, trying to trick her.

Persistence is firmly telling her what you want.

Chasing is sending all the signs of submissive behavior while pursuing her.

Persistence is bluntly giving her the option of being in your company, and allowing her to leave at her choosing.

Chasing is constricting her, telegraphing that she MUST only be with you.

Persistence is approaching with no regrets.

Chasing is hesitating and then clinging on once you think you "have" her.

Persistence is asking her to by a drink for you.

Chasing is asking if you can by a drink for her. (CRINGE)

Persistence is when I asked a girl to come back to my dorm to see my Photoshop artworks. (result: F-close)

Chasing is when I asked a girl out after she refused to have sex with me. (result: nothing lol)


Quite a difference right?

On women who "like the chase".... Some women and some dating advice sites say women just like the chase, (you chasing them). Well, usually this results in a guy getting put in the friend zone and results in nothing. Don't let a girl get you in the "chase" zone, attract her first. The chase zone is the highway to friendzoneville.

Speed of Implementation

One of the most important concepts I had to learn the hard way was called speed of implementation (a term coined by David Deangelo). Speed of implementation is critical for success as a playboy. I however, payed little attention to it and ended up having a stalled game. For a certain period after discovering the community, I, and many other AFC's become almost obessessed with the theories and concepts presented to them by other seduction masters. They become so enthralled by the game that they literally just read about it, and don't actually DO it. The key is to put what you have learned into action right as you learn it, right as you become fascinated by it, and not to wait and dwell on it and analyse it. It took me nearly 4 months for me to actually put the stuff I had learnt into action, and by that point I had become kind of turned off by the game. So it is critical when you learn something new to go out and do it immediately. If you cannot go out, go online to facebook and use the facebook chat to deploy a line or whatever.

Enough With the Negativity

That last post was a bit depressing right? I just had to get that out there on the playing field. I promise that's the last negative thing you will see on this blog. This leads me to a fundamental issue I'd like to address: ATTITUDE. Attitude is by far the most important thing to to have control over as a player. It is more important than inner game (game that is derived from the mind), physique (physical masculinity), and far more decisive than and gimmicks or techniques that the Mystery Method and other PUAs worship. Attitude is actually the first thing to develop when taking the path to dating success. The funny thing is that attitude, being the most important thing, is the easiest thing to develop. If you have the right attitude, inner game develops, the techniques you practice flow out in the most seductive manner and things seem just right. When you have the right attitude, you have the vibe, or good attitude. That's all you need really, no amount of seduction bullshit can replace that.

"Nothing on earth can stop a man with the right attitude from achieving his dreams"

This vibe should be applied to everything you do. I see a lot of guys, especially in the Community refer to women as bitches, whores, and other negative things. Don't make that mistake. This just creates negative thought connections when you think of women in general. Also, don't think of guys who are successful with women are jerks, assholes and the like (most of them are not!). Don't you want to be successful with women? Why the fuck would you call yourself a jerk, asshole? Another way to apply positive vibe is by when interacting with women directly. Have a fucking positive attitude. FORCE yourself to think you are the man in the face of a woman. Force it, don't fake it.

Incorporate positive vibe to everything in your life. Get good grades, join a social group or whatever and rock that shit. The vibe will overflow into every other aspect of life.

Field report:
A few months ago I was in the "Hub" as its known at UF. It's kind of a social gathering place so to speak. I was with my friend, Wilson and he was enjoying his chick-fil-a sandwich. I was just chillin', and out of no where I caught the eye of a cute* brunette a few feet away on a couch. She saw me looking at her, I didn't flinch. All that came to mind was, "I'm gonna fuck you so hard tonight" and I literally said it over and over in my mind 10 times as we telegraphic sex with our eyes (at least that's what I thought of it). Wilson left to go to the bathroom for a few minutes (great timing), and she waltzed over confident as can be, and started some small talk. The funny thing is, I was flirting with her and I didn't even realize it. And she was too. It was so natural it freaked me out. That was definitely NOT the end of that. This just reflects how the right attitude can change everything. Obviously, I wouldn't have gotten the same response if I had thought timidly, "omg shes looking at me... look away..." (However I am pretty hunky, she might have still come over :D )

"Get 'er Dun" strategies
This section is for listing some strategies for achieving the mindset discussed in the post. They are "get 'er dun" strategies because they are meant to be employed right now. Keyword right now. Fucking do this shit and GET 'ER DUN Damnit. Ok.

One of the best things to do is create a 'dream board'. Get one of those cork boards and cut out pictures of stuff you want, cars, electronics, women w/e. Continually add to the board and put it somewhere easily visible. Make a title that says "DREAM BOARD" so people know what you are up to, and if they criticize you for having big dreams tell them to fuck off because they are being negative. Remember, only have good vibes in your life. Remove the negative things, even people if you have to.


Ok it's getting late.
I'm off...
like my ex-girlfriends dress.


*I don't rate girls on a scale of 1-10, I just follow my gut feeling: cute, hot, sexy w/e. I believe that rating them by numbers puts an emotional gut feeling on a rational scale of 1-10, and I don't believe it translates well. One man's 8 is another man's 6, but cute is always cute and sexy is always sexy.

KinoPlayer is in the House

Players, my name is Baird O'Neile. I'm writing this blog to share dating advice and log my adventures as an aspiring player. I have been on this rock for a mere 19 years, and, it seems in the last nine months, I have learned more than my fair share about life. That's right, nine months ago, I found my way into the Seduction Community by securing an illegal copy of David Deangelo's eBook "Attraction is not a Choice." At this point, I knew my life had changed. I knew there was no stopping me; I was in the Seduction Community and was not leaving soon. Back then, I was a mere 18 years old and just about to start college as an engineering major at the University of Florida. I was also in a relationship I perceived as good. I considered myself lucky that I had scored such a beautiful girlfriend, my first actually. I had no clue how wrong I had it. With the enlightenment of the community, I realized how naive and "AFC" I was. I was still buying dinner for her, going to visit whenever she needed me. I thought I was on the right track, I mean, thats what everyone told me to do, thats what the internet said, that's what my traditional southern roots told me to do too. I did everything for her, just so I could get a nice drawn out kiss at the end of the day with her. Little did I know I was being so manipulative: buying her necklaces an such just to try to "get some." She dumped me out of nowhere. I never saw it coming. Shit has changed now. I have the knowledge, the power of truth on my side and I'm putting it to work like a draft horse. I wish you the best of luck in doing this too.